Quinceanera Celebration Brings Family Together

The News-Sentinel

Monday, November 16, 2015


Friends and family members can spend years planning lavish celebrations for teens who are entering adulthood

Edition: FINAL; Section: Local Section; Page: 1L

Source: Beth Behrendt

Santana Gomez strummed the final chord of “House of the Rising Sun” on her guitar and smiled as the room broke into applause and cheers. It was April 2015, and Canterbury School’s “Coffee House Night” at Mocha Lounge was in full swing.

My eighth-grade son, Jack, was displaying his recent artwork and supporting his friends’ musical efforts.

With Santana’s lovely performance over, her mother, Christina Becerril-Carbajal, approached and asked if Jack had talked to me about Santana’s party. “No. I’m afraid he hasn’t!” I replied, smiling.

He’s a 13-year-old boy. At best, I get told we are out of potato chips.

She explained that Santana would be celebrating her quinceanera in October and wanted Jack to be a chambelan in her court. “Do you know about quinceaneras?” she asked kindly. “Oh, of course, I do!” I nodded knowingly. (Because I read a newspaper article about them once!).

“Great!” she replied. “We’ll be starting weekly two-hour dance practices soon. I’ll text you the schedule!”

“Great! Talk soon!” I said, waving goodbye, my mind reeling: “Did she say practices? Dancing? Jack?!”


As soon as we were in the car, I bombarded Jack with questions in classic, ineffective Mom style. He was, no surprise, short on details. But he was obviously excited about the party and happy to be helping his good friend. That’s all that mattered. I’d figure out the rest. The more I learned, the more intrigued I became.

First: it’s pronounced KEEN-say-ahn-YAY-ra. (Jack soon grew tired of correcting my pronunciation, finally throwing in the towel on my failure to roll my Rs.)

For many Latino families, a quinceanera is a celebration of a daughter’s “coming of age” at 15 years old. Family and friends come from near and far to celebrate the girl of honor. To say these parties can be elaborate is an understatement. Planning takes months, even years.

The girl chooses 14 friends to be on her court (the boys are called chambelanes; the girls are damas) and picks a special male friend to be her escort (chambelan de honor). Santana chose her longtime friend, Brian Villareal, as escort. The court attends her at the quinceanera Mass and then performs several choreographed dances at the party afterward.


Santana’s celebration began with a Mass at their home parish, the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception in Fort Wayne. Monsignor Robert Schulte, who officiated, said only one or two of these occur at the Cathedral each year. Christina told me, “Other parishes that have larger Latino populations, like St. Patrick’s, have significantly more.”

To prepare for the ceremony, Santana attended classes at the Cathedral and met one-on-one with Schulte.

“We talked about the challenges of being a female – being accountable for your actions,” recalled Santana. “Also about the unique gifts you have that can make a difference in others’ lives.”

Schulte said the preparations give the girl “a chance for her to reflect on her status as a religious woman in the world.” During the Mass, he mentioned she will ask for “the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary, a woman of great faith and unity with God and Jesus Christ.”

The Mass began with the court processing down the aisle, followed by Santana, who was escorted by her father, mother and stepfather. Part of the Mass is the presentation of special gifts from select family members and friends (padrinos).

“We wanted to make sure to choose people that are close to her and have an influence in her life,” Christina said. “Her padrinos included her brothers, aunts and uncles, cousins, and her godmother. Also my cousins, who are very close to Santana.”


The gifts prepare her for life as a Catholic woman and remind the girl of her baptism and the vows she took at confirmation. The gifts are blessed by the priest and then presented to the girl by each of the padrinos. A bible and rosary are obvious gifts, but she also receives traditional gifts of jewelry: a ring and bracelet (symbolizing God’s unending love), a tiara (symbolizing that she is “a princess in the eyes of God”) and earrings (reminding her to keep her ears turned to the voice of God).

The party is like a wedding reception in many ways. The room is decorated with twinkly lights, tulle and flowers. A beautifully decorated cake is on display, as well as a formal photo of the girl of honor. The guests are treated to drinks, dinner and dancing. There are speeches, toasts and a father-daughter dance.

Certain traditions make the quinceanera party unique. In the “shoe ceremony,” the father assists his daughter in changing from the flat-soled shoes of girlhood into fancy high-heels. Up to that point, Santana had been sporting sparkly, pastel Converse sneakers under her flouncy, formal gown.

Also a large, beautifully dressed doll is on display, representing the leaving behind of childhood.

“It’s the last doll Santana will receive as a little girl,” Christina said. “It’s really special that it was a gift from her Aunt Kristin.”

Besides the gifts at the Mass, other padrinos assist by giving gifts or money for the party. Christina said that they did things “like helping to pay for the DJ and the reception hall, (and)giving the guestbook and the special pillow on which her new high-heeled shoes were displayed.” Christina’s lifelong friend, Lisa Bradley, donated a gorgeous, homemade, multitiered cake and cupcakes decorated with edible sugar butterflies.


The efforts to prepare the boys and girls for dances they perform at the party are pretty astounding. Even though practices for the whole group had been going on since May, “it’s the thing I’m most nervous about,” Santana said a week before the party.

Trying to squeeze one more thing into the life of today’s already over-scheduled teenagers is challenge enough. As Abraham Gutierrez, the choreographer for the event, stressed, “The kids have to realize what a commitment they are making; we have to battle phones and social media to keep their attention – not every kid is up to the challenge.”

His business, Abeography, specializes in choreographing the dances that are a key feature of the quinceanera celebration. He helps the family choose the music and the type and number of dances. “It’s important to respect the traditions of the ceremony,” he said, but the music and the choreography reflect the tastes of the family. “The main goal is to keep the girl’s mom happy,” he said, only half-joking.

After assessing the kids’ skill levels, Gutierrez plans dance steps they can master. He attends every practice to keep the kids on task. For Santana and Brian, the practices for their more elaborate dances began in January. By June, the other kids on the court were practicing weekly, even two times per week over summer break.

The kids’ performance begins with a couple of traditional formal waltzes. Later, the kids return for a “surprise” dance to contemporary music with more creative dance moves. Then the rest of the crowd hits the dance floor.


Christina is happy to see quinceaneras regaining popularity. “I remember going along with my grandparents, but I didn’t have one,” she said. “Now a lot of people my generation are doing them for their daughters.”

It brings family together: “It’s a big deal, a family reunion – your daughter is getting in front of friends and family and accepting the responsibilities of young womanhood.” But most important “is the opportunity it gives girls to connect with their heritage.”

Santana concurred. “I’m excited to celebrate my family and my heritage,” she said. “But I’m also really excited to show my friends at Canterbury this part of my culture. It’s not something that many of them have experienced before.”

A large group of her friends from school were there, eating authentic Mexican food and dancing like crazy. But they also listened intently as Santana made her speech. There stood a 15-year-old “girl” declaring the importance of her family, heritage and faith. She then expressed her deep appreciation to her parents – not only for a great party, but also for the hard work and sacrifices they make to give her the best opportunities they can.

At her “coming of age” party, it was obvious that Santana is already there.


Party Planning

Nationwide, a $400 million-a-year industry has sprung up to support quinceaneras, which have similar requirements as a wedding: invitations, formal dresses, tuxedo rentals, hair stylist, photographer, limo rental, reception hall and catering.

Christina Becerril-Carbajal’s planning for the quinceanera of her daughter, Santana Gomez, began about a year before the event. “Luckily, my cousin had planned one for her daughter last year,” she said. “She had lots of advice on planning and which local businesses to use.”

Santana’s elaborate, rose petal-pink dress was purchased from Isabella’s on Fairfield Avenue. “The damas’ (girls in her quinceanera court) dresses were hand-made by Totally You Alterations on Broadway,” explained Christina. “We decided to go this route because Santana wanted a rainbow theme. We couldn’t find a store-bought dress that came in seven different colors!”

The chambelanes’ (boys in her court) tuxedos (as well as those worn by Santana’s father, stepfather and uncle) were from Rogers Formalwear. Richard Pape, owner, said that the number of quinceaneras for which he supplies formal wear has grown in recent years from “just a few a year to well over 20 percent of our business now.”

They are so important to his business that his main goal, when he looked to move to a new building a few years ago, was to “stay in this part of town and continue to serve this community.”

The reception was held at the Classic Cafe. Christina knew they had done a lot of quinceaneras and do the catering as well. “Even though the owner, Terry Clancy, isn’t Mexican, he cooks authentically, and we got a lot of compliments on the food!” Christina said.


These are the local businesses the Santana Gomez’s family used in planning her quinceanera:

* Abeography (choreography) abeography@yahoo.com

* Classic Cafe Catering and Event Center Website: www.classiccafeinc.com Address: 4832 Hillegas Road, Fort Wayne, IN Phone: 260-458-2982

* Creaciones Isabella (quinceanera dresses) Address: 2126 Fairfield Ave., Fort Wayne, IN Phone: 260-579-0842

* Rogers Formal Wear (tuxedo rentals) Website: http://rogers.myclixhosting.com Address: 2809 Broadway, Fort Wayne, IN Phone: 260-744-5100

* Totally You Alterations Website: www.totallyyoualterations.com Address: 2447 Broadway, Fort Wayne, IN Phone: 260-744-0698

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